By insisting that the gay and lesbian nuclear family (a retrograde hetero-mimicry throwback to the 1950s) needs protection, gay marriage activists are further enabling the privatization of social safety nets.
For example, the heightened emphasis on the idea that gay marriage is necessary for same-sex partners to gain health insurance allows the state to further justify not creating a system of universal health care where all people, regardless of marital status receive necessary medical care. In the 1980s, queers agitated for universal health care in the face of a devastating AIDS epidemic that left them caring for those whom the state refused to consider worthy of the most basic care. Today they are calling for the opposite by insisting that only those in state-mandated relationships are worthy of health care.

-- Ryan Conrad, Gay Marriage and Queer Love, Queering Anarchism (via anarcholiberalism)

(Source: sedimentarysyndicalist)

boohooboombuh:

abby-graceful:

"bisexuals have straight passing privilege"
did you mean bi erasure ?
having people constantly assume im straight or gay based on who im dating or how I dress isn’t a privilege. it’s degrading and ignorant.

Bi erasure is a real thing but also if you consistently get read as heterosexual or if your relationship is consistently perceived as heterosexual while you’re out and about in the social world then you are afforded a profound degree of safety and security in everyday life—protection against discrimination, hostility, and violence—that visibly queer people and people in visibly queer relationships do not have. And that’s a privilege, and it should be acknowledged.

And I have a pretty fraught relationship with claiming queerness but I can certainly recall real uncomfortable situations when I’ve dropped the “Oh yeah my boyfriend” bomb and then feeling entire rooms breathe audible sighs of relief. And suddenly I’m a member of the club and everything is okay. She’s got a weird gay haircut and a lot of opinions, but hey, it’s okay, she’s got a boyfriend. It’s a real thing, and it’s a privilege. 

Daniel Franzese, Damian of Mean Girls, comes out -- and don't you dare say he's too gay to function

gaywrites:

Ten years after the debut of the life-altering movie that is Mean Girls, actor Daniel Franzese, who played openly gay high schooler Damian, has come out as gay.

Franzese, now 36, wrote a letter to his character that was published in IndieWire. He asks himself why it had taken him so long to come out as gay, saying that his portrayal of Damian actually set him back in Hollywood and in his own personal coming to terms with himself.

The whole thing is damn insightful and meaningful, but here’s a particularly telling excerpt about how Daniel’s career took an unexpected turn after he played Damian:

One time I wanted to audition for a supporting character in a low-budget indie movie described as a “doughy, blue-collar lug of a guy.”  The role was to play the husband of an actress friend of mine who I had been in two movies and an Off-Broadway play with.  She and I had even moved to L.A. together. I figured I was perfect for it.

They said they were looking for a real “man’s man.”  The casting director wouldn’t even let me audition. This wasn’t the last time this happened. There were industry people who had seen me play you in Mean Girls but never seen me read in an audition but still denied me to be seen for “masculine” roles.

However, I did turn down many offers to play flamboyant, feather-boa-slinging stereotypes that always seemed to be laughed at BECAUSE they were gay. How could I go from playing an inspirational, progressive gay youth to the embarrassing, cliched butt-of-a-joke? 

So, there it was. Damian, you had ruined my life and I was really pissed at you. I became celibate for a year and a half. I didn’t go to any gay bars, have any flings and I lied to anyone who asked if I was gay. I even brought a girl to the ‘Mean Girls’ premiere and kissed her on the red carpet, making her my unwitting beard.  

Why come out now, then? 

It wasn’t until years later that grown men started to coming up to me on the street - some of them in tears - and thanking me for being a role model to them. Telling me I gave them comfort not only being young and gay but also being a big dude. It was then that I realized how much of an impact YOU had made on them.  

Before you make the “too gay to function” joke, which I totally did before I finished reading the article, listen to what he has to say about it:

I hate it when people say I’m ‘too gay to function.’ I know you do, too. Those people are part of the problem. They should refrain from using that phrase. It really is only OK when Janis says it.

It takes some serious guts to be this open about the intermingling of your career and your personal life, especially when admitting that playing a beloved character in a classic movie has impacted you in a negative way. I have loads of respect for this man. Congrats, Daniel. 

pettyhurts:

While your fave bribes and uses the LGBT community for album and single sales, my queen takes action and makes underwear for straight, lesbian, and gay couples. Your fave would never!

pettyhurts:

While your fave bribes and uses the LGBT community for album and single sales, my queen takes action and makes underwear for straight, lesbian, and gay couples. Your fave would never!

(Source: beyonseh)

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completely-dunn:

wifipassworcl:

thepottertardis:

apertures413thdoctor:

pleatedjeans:

via

Ellen what the fuck happened in 1998

ellen degeneres came out in 1997

yeah but ellen what happened in 2014

ellen page came out in 2014

completely-dunn:

wifipassworcl:

thepottertardis:

apertures413thdoctor:

pleatedjeans:

via

Ellen what the fuck happened in 1998

ellen degeneres came out in 1997

yeah but ellen what happened in 2014

ellen page came out in 2014

ruf1oh-n1tram:

Remember that episode of courage the cowardly dog where a furry bunny runs away from abusive dog dude to be with her lesbian cat lover

because that is all you need to remember

phoneus:

whenever a legal adult harrasses an underage trans girl just imagine like a grown person going up to a little girl on the street and saying mean shit, and imagine how everyone around the two would get super pissed and maybe restrain the adult. that’s how it should be on tumblr

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Click here to support Help Three QTPOC Fatties get to the AMC! by Cory Briana

fuckyeahchubbyfashion:

chubbycartwheels:

tierracita:

tierracita:

tierracita:

Dear community of friends, family, and supporters.

We are three queer fatties of color and this will be our first time attending the Allied Media Conference. We really need your support getting there! 

The Allied Media Conference is in Detroit, Michigan June 19th-22nd. Our workshop was accepted and we are excited to present as part of theAbundant Bodies track! We have not been in any way able to afford this conference in the past and it’s prevented us from even applying but this year we took a leap of faith and submitted a workshop proposal. Now that we have been accepted we want to make sure this dream opportunity becomes a reality.

The cost for the three of us to attend is pretty immense, especially considering our limited and different economic resources. We anticipated being able to cover a portion of the cost but we will need your help to get all three of us there. We hope that our vibrant community of fatties, QTPOC, friends and family will help us make this trip possible. 

We need help covering the following costs:

Plane tickets $1800 (flights from Portland to Detroit are ~650 and flights from Salt Lake City are ~$550)
Housing $500 (we found an airbnb across the street from the university that would allow us to room together and cook meals to save money)
Transportation/taxis $100
Registration $150 (we were awarded an additional $150 from AMC to use towards registration but we would like to contribute more to the conference beyond that amount)

Trip Total 2550 + ~150 for indiegogo fees

Grand total 2700

Anything we raise here above and beyond this amount will go towards food and supplies for our workshop and our rewards offered here. 

If you can’t donate (and we totally understand that many folks won’t be able to), we hope that you will still support us by spreading the word or consider donating items/skills that we can add to our rewards offered.

We do this work to leave evidence of ourselves, those of us who are simultaneously unseen and hypervisible in our queer, fat, brown bodies. Please help us in doing this work!

Thank you! 

Cory, Jess, and Esther 

(read more about us and our workshop at the link!)

Check out our workshop description!

DANGER! Excessive Consumption of Selfies

What makes our fat self-representation consumable? We’ll look at the ways we make our own images and why we create these images, why they’re valuable, subversive and how they can reinforce the same oppressive systems we resist. We aim to build connection and community for fat folks IRL, online and build our media presence. We’ll identify the components of desirability that influences and control how our fat bodies are consumed and produce selfies documenting our exploration into fat self-imagery

You know you wanna help us get to the AMC! Please donate or reblog:)

We’ve almost hit $500! That’s nearly the price of one plane ticket! Please keep sharing and donating, if you can. 

Means the world to me to see all the support you’ve all offered already. Thank you!

Spread the word you guys!  Help them to their goal!

I thought this was worth sharing. If you can’t/won’t donate, maybe just reblog it to help spread the word? That’s what I am doing.
-Shelby

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smith-q-and-a:

just a few of the signs we made today for our rally on april 24 starting at 8:30AM! thanks to everyone who came out.